How to make relations last??

It will always start with 'Me'

There is no mantra to make an equation a long lasting one but over my experiences in the past, I have learnt a couple of things which has created a new version of me each day, increased compassion in me, I found myself better each day and fell in love harder with only and only myself to love better to each one who deserved it.. I have pushed many people away because I didn't know better or I was still healing or I was ignorant..

My idea has never been about hurting people in anyway but if you don't want to hurt others, you end up hurting yourself..

How do I know what to do? How do I know that I got to manage better while all I know is that this just doesn't seem as right no matter what I do..

It doesn't feel right because I sat with social bandwidth set my people who belonged to a series of events that no longer exist.. Not for me, not for the world but still following it because noone told us otherwise!!! Why is it that we always need someone to tell us otherwise yet we aren't as open to change as we'd like for things to be?

However I always thought following points matter in any equation because it is a two way street -

1. Open communication

2. Acceptance about differences

3. Patience

4. Supporting each other

5. Understanding that there will be misunderstandings

6. Self-love only to show them how to love you

7. Give more than you receive

8. Do more of what makes you happy

9. Don't stick to other people's idea of future

10. Don't be spoiled by choices

These may change over a period of time, the list may upgrade I don't know.. As per the social-economical-physical-mental strata of thinkers who thought they could easily define rules for everyone.. each day I have been an upgrade in a couple of things and a downgrade in some but I have been happier learning, I have been so sad on some days that I sometimes looked at my family thought 'Thank god I bought insurance, now I can die in peace'.

In next 15 mins, I have put my world together and said 'Lets go out to win, my smile all over again'.

I will forever be a sum of my decision and consequence of my action but my involvement around 'compassion' to make it better with all the people that I work with is what will make I will get better at each day, some days rough but most days 'Awesome'.

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